How do you know if your child is ready to drive?
When it's time to teach your teenager to drive, parents should begin by taking the time to make sure their teen is knowledgeable about and comfortable with the vehicle and its controls. Parents can also check with their insurance companies to see if they have programs to help teach a teen to drive. For example, the State Farm® Steer Clear® program is a great way for teen and young adult drivers to improve their driving skills.
Rules of the road refresher
Driving rules and the way students are taught change periodically. If it’s been awhile since you studied the current rules it may be good to review your student’s materials before instructing them.
Start with a tour of the vehicle
Before you hit the road, start by training your teen on the basics: demonstrate how to adjust the seat, and the side and rearview mirrors safely to fit their needs. Make any other accommodations that are necessary, such as tilting the steering wheel.
Review the controls and features of the car. Give your teen an education on how each of these works:
- Dashboard controls
- Steering wheel and seat adjustment
- Mirror adjustment
- Turn signals
- Safety features like air bags and seat belts
- Emergency lights
- Parking brake/release
- Starting/turning off the engine
- Gas, brakes (especially ABS)
- Warning indicator lights on dashboard (such as low fuel, oil, temperature indicator)
Also, be sure to show your teen where the registration, insurance card, and car manual are located.
Get a feel for the vehicle
The first time your teen actually drives the car, start in the safest, easiest location possible, like an empty parking lot. Have your teen practice applying gas and brakes, driving straight, turning, and backing up.
As you see your teen beginning to master these skills, take note and make the situation a little more complex next time. For example, instead of just stopping and starting, have your teen pull into and out of a parking spot.
It can take several outings to learn how to get from point A to point B, and to figure out how much pressure to apply to the brakes to stop or how far to move the steering wheel to turn.
This is also a good time to remind your teen driver to pay attention to their surroundings:
- Look ahead and to the sides.
- Check mirrors.
- Scan continuously for hazards.
- Teach your teen to keep a clear "safety space" around the car so there's room to react to any hazards. The farther he or she hangs back from the vehicle in front, the better your teen will be able to see what's ahead. Seeing better and farther provides extra time to react to changing traffic conditions.
Start in low-speed, low-traffic areas
Once your teen is comfortable with the basic operation of the car, take your training to quiet streets where your teen can practice staying on one side of the road, anticipate cars exiting driveways, and learn to pull up to a stop sign.
For the next several lessons, stick to roads that have slower speed limits (under 35 mph). Emphasize that the posted limit is only a guide for an acceptable speed in excellent conditions. Your teen should drive even slower in poor weather, heavy traffic, or areas where there are a lot of pedestrians.
Beginner skills checklist
Vary the routes to practice the following:
- Turns: speed and use of signals
- Braking smoothly: gradually slowing to a stop
- Accelerating smoothly: steadily increasing to a safe speed within the posted limit
- Approaching intersections controlled by stop signs or lights
- Determining right of way
- Single-lane and multi-lane roadways (low speeds)
- Changing lanes and how to merge into traffic safely
- Maintaining appropriate speed
- Scanning for and identifying hazards
- Keeping a safe following distance
- Sharing the road with cyclists, pedestrians, and school buses
- Driving in a school zone
- Reacting to an approaching emergency vehicle
- Using turning lanes
As your new driver starts to master these skills, pay attention to which ones he or she is confident with. As you both become more comfortable, continue to expose your teen to different times of day, levels of traffic, and weather conditions on familiar roads.
At this point, your teen has mastered the basics and needs lots of practice getting used to the road. For the next several hours of driving practice, stick to low-speed, low-traffic roads. Try to take a different route each time to be sure your teen is getting the variety needed to become a safe driver. Also consider working with a driving instructor.
Driving on the highway
Driving on a multi-lane highway for the first time can be scary. Start your teen out by driving at quieter times of the day to practice merging into traffic, staying in the lane, and using higher speeds and safe following distances without the added stress of rush-hour traffic. Once you are both comfortable with that, gradually move on to busier traffic situations.
Before heading out onto the highway, prepare your new driver for:
- Higher speeds that call for longer stopping distances
- The need to check blind spots before changing lanes
- Driving near large trucks
- Anticipating interchanges by reading signs
- Allowing a "safety space" around you, in the event you need to pull off the road for another vehicle or debris
- Looking for traffic stopped or slowing ahead
Advanced skills checklist
Skills a new driver needs to master while in high-speed, high-traffic conditions:
- Merging into traffic
- Identifying road signs and exits
- Navigating toll booths
- Passing and being overtaken
- Maintaining proper speed
- Being courteous to others
- Keeping a safe following distance
Difficult driving conditions are dangerous for all drivers, but are extremely hazardous for new drivers. After you and your teen feel confident with his or her ability to handle each driving situation in daylight and good weather, make sure your teen has plenty of opportunities to drive each type of road at night and in rain, snow, and fog. Discuss using features like the defroster, fog lights, and bright headlights.
Until both you and your teen driver are comfortable with driving in "degraded" conditions, he or she shouldn't do it without supervision, even if the law says it's allowed.
How do I know when my teen is ready to drive alone?
Your instincts are probably the best way to know. Remember, even if your teen is legally old enough to get a license, it's your decision whether he or she is ready.
Questions to consider
- Has my teen had enough practice, in varying conditions, so we are both confident with my teen's ability to handle most situations?
- Has my teen shown the ability to detect hazards and react to them quickly?
- Have I noticed that scanning for hazards has become a habit for my teen?
- Does my teen always wear a seat belt and remind others to do so?
- Does my teen avoid using a cell phone or texting when driving?
- Does my teen wait to pull over to handle distractions or situations that take his or her eyes away from the road? Do I think my teen will act the same way when I'm not in the car?
- Does my teen speed or drive aggressively?
- Will my teen know to pull over if upset, frustrated, or angry?
- Has my teen exhibited responsibility in other areas of his or her life and do I trust him or her to drive my car responsibly?
- Has my teen agreed to your safe driving habits and house rules?
If you think more time and practice is needed before your teen becomes a licensed driver, talk to your teen about the reasons. One way to handle it is to make a deal that your teen may get a license, but you don't want your teen driving alone in certain situations.